It’s been awhile since my last post as I learned of the tragic death of one of my best friends and then had to fly to Atlanta to say my goodbyes to him and his family. In writing up my last words about my friend that i had to read at the funeral I took some time to reflect on a lot of things. Obviously, you reflect about your time with your friend and reminisce about the great times you had together and how much you will miss him. I also however, spent time reflecting upon my own life and my family.
It was a real tough week for me since I heard of the news. I stopped eating right, sleeping right, I found myself not spending as much quality time with my boys and Katie, and I definitely was useless with regards to work. Now that I am back from his funeral I feel a renewed sense of energy. I realize that life is fragile and that I need to make the most of everyday that I wake up and that goes not only for my dealings with my family but also with my company (since this is supposed to be a blog about business after all).
I miss my friend and I will think of him often for certain but one way I am going to pay tribute to him going forward is to try to keep my life in perspective. When I have a bad day at work, I am going to try to go home and forget about it and not let it carry over to my dealings with my wife and kids. When I hear some bad news about a proposal or a recruit that we were unable to hire, I will be disappointed of course but I will try to not let it effect my outlook on future proposals or recruiting efforts.
Conversely, I am also going to take some time and reflect on the good things that happen to me in my personal life and also for integrateIT. For example, on Friday during my travels I learned that we were a part of a winning team on a proposal we submitted awhile back. We had teamed with KPMG and it will get us some new work for a few more years with a new agency. I feel like at times we don’t celebrate these type accomplishments the way we should. We tend to look at it as something we expect to happen and when they don’t we are upset about it. It is a major accomplishment for a company our size to win work at ANY government agency, let alone a new one we are not established in. It’s also a major accomplishment for a company our size to successfully team with a company like KPMG and will undoubtedly result in future work with this company.
So in closing my “lesson” here is not a lesson at all but rather a plea for all my friends and family to keep things in perspective. When you get some bad news about a proposal you lost, or something along those lines….deal with it. Be disappointed, but try not to let it affect your family life. It’s not worth it. We don’t get to redo this life and it could be gone in a flash like what happened to my friend. But also, take time to celebrate life’s successes. Be proud of your accomplishments no matter how small you may think they are at the time. I know that life gets busy and I am going to have times when I lose perspective again. We all do/will….that’s life. But like I said before, life is fragile and we only get to do this thing one time. Make the most of it and don’t waste time worrying about things that don’t matter that much. So with renewed perspective……BACK TO WORK!